Rav Itshak Cohen : " LES CRITÈRES VÉRITABLES POUR CHOISIR UN CONJOINT OU UNE CONJOINTE "

There are mornings like this. Yeah. >> Barem. We're here.

We're here. >> Olivier, you had your croissant. >> Woo woo >> and they were good this morning. >> It was magnificent.

Hashem. We thank Hashem for the mounas we had, the brioches, the croissants, the pains au chocolat. Chem extraordinary this morning, November 4th with this sun. Ladies and gentlemen in France, we await you.

Come, come, come, come. If you can come, come, come, come and spend a good time with us. A little dedication this very special morning for the So then, uh, uh, uh, uh , it's a great moment. A little dedication this morning in this Torah class to our dear friend Olivier's mother-in-law.

We have the right to dedicate it to her . >> Yes, we have the right. >> Long life, health, prosperity, joy. >> Amen.

>> A real life, a life where the soul, where the soul, the soul, is nourished. There you go. No, she has an extraordinary son-in-law named Olivier. Olivier!

Hey Olivier! Olivier! I was told that there is a yeshiva in Jerusalem where they know me, but they know me through what? Not my classes.

Do you know what they told me? What did they say? Shiva Olivier! Olivier!

I thought I was giving Torah classes, I was doing stuff, but no, Olivier, 6 years old, Olivier. You can't leave here anymore because the day you do, I'm stopping classes. Oh, you can't. So you stay with me.

Well, this morning, ladies and gentlemen , Bokertov, first of all, you are here, you are with me, ladies and gentlemen. You are with me every morning. May God give you everything you need, from the bottom of his heart, who favors you, everything you desire, everything you need. health parnasatova zivagoun for children everything we need in men keniratson this morning I would like to give you an idea because you know that my classes revolve around, have you noticed or not , my classes do not revolve around these chutes of May, the end of time, the end of the world.

That's nice. It's very nice, huh? But but but it revolves around an idea. The construction of the human being.

What we call in the Torah the midotes. The work of the human being. No, have you noticed or not? Have you noticed or not?

By the way, all those who are never interested in personal change, they do not listen to my classes. They do not listen to my classes. It gives them eczema. It gives them eczema .

They do not want to listen to the class. Can I ask you a question? Is the Torah here, is it the Torah for what I'm talking about every morning, is it something important in the Torah or is it okay, that's not the problem. It's not the most important thing.

The most important thing is to tell you stories. I didn't understand. Watch out, this morning things are going to change. Things are going to change.

So I'm stuck on Facebook for a few more days. Share. Make me a mitvaez. You've shared, share, share.

If you have other groups, share. Here we go. ni bidar. >> So here it is, Abraham Ainu our father had a servant.

Listen carefully to what I'm telling you . I'm not telling you the story from the parasha, you already know it. This servant holds all the bank accounts of Abraham Avinu who is a multi-billionaire. He's the one who does everything.

Abraham Avinu has total confidence in himself. Cherlo, as it is written in the Torah. He commanded, he was the steward of everything that Avra had. Do we agree or not?

The trusted man. When a man of trust is asked to go and find a girl for his son, he is required to swear an oath regarding the matter. What makes him swear? Be careful not to take a girl from this country, but she, the owner, goes to my hometown, goes to get a girl from my family.

He goes to get a girl from Abraham's Ah, eter, he tells him: "If the girl doesn't want to come, be careful!" He tells him: "Be careful, if she doesn't want to come, get me a girl from here, I warn you, swear to me!" Suddenly, the one who had total confidence in him no longer trusts anything. He makes him swear, he makes him swear. “Me, tell me, I manage your billions of dollars and billions of euros, you’ve never made me swear for money and now you’re making me swear!” He makes her swear for real. Apparently when he made her swear, he also gave her instructions about which girl he wanted for his son.

Of course, of course. He must have explained to her why he didn’t want a girl from Canaan. He didn’t want the girls who were in Canaan. Not at all.

Abraham Avinu is aware that these women will become the mothers of the people of Israel. The mothers. Then, there will be Rifka, since we’re talking about Rifka now in this week’s parshat. Then, there will be Rachel and Leah.

Rachel and Leah, mothers of Israel. It’s in our DNA. In our DNA, we have that. We have the DNA of our mothers.

He must have told her which girl he wants. He gave him a list of the most important things. Well, we don't see them here when he makes him swear an oath, the Torah doesn't tell us what he asked him to do Go get me a girl from my father's house , from my relatives in Haran, go there. Well, we'll find out later.

What was the list? How? Quandzer starts the journey, he prays to God and he tells God the following thing : Adonai and Latchet gave Abraham. Lord, the God of my master Abraham, please let me meet him today.

Let me meet the girl today. There, he arrives in Haran. I beg you, Hashem, and show kindness to your master Abraham to help me. For my Abraham, you must help me.

Hem God, I am standing in front of the well , in front of the fountain, in front of the well. Listen to me carefully. Listen to me carefully, it's scary. And here is the girl to whom I will say , “Your pitcher, give me a drink,” and she will say to me, “I will give you a drink and I will give your camels a drink.” This is the one you have appointed for your servant Isaac.

And through her, I will know that you have shown kindness to my master. When he prays, he makes a list. I want a girl who, when I get to the well, will give me a drink, and to whom ? And to my camels.

That’s not a high-flying idea. My word, that’s not high-flying. That’s what you, that’s the list you received from Abraham. And now the Torah tells us that the girl arrives.

There are young girls who come to the well to give them a drink. Eleer runs to her and says to her, “ Give me a drink.” She says to him, “Drink, my master.” She hurried. She lowered her pitcher from her to her hand. She gave him a drink.

She finished giving him a drink and she said to him: "For your camels too, I will draw water until they have finished drinking." The story is beautiful. It's funny, isn't it? He was amazed. The Torah says, he was watching while remaining silent, he just saw that God had granted his wishes.

Okay, well, the story, it's a beautiful story, very nice. She gave him a drink. She gave his camels a drink, huh. And then, he validated it, he validated it.

He gave her jewelry. She took her home to her parents. He told her parents, I came to get her for whom? For my master's son, for Itrak Avinu, the one who passed the rakedat Itrak, the one who did the most terrible thing in the world.

A man of a greatness that was never seen in humanity. Ah, he's happy, he's happy, he's happy, he's happy. You don't have any questions, that's all He says that's all, that's all, that's the story. Ah, the woman who will give me water and who will give water to my camels.

Well done, that's all. What? The only thing he saw in a girl, the only thing he looked for, the only thing he looked for in a girl, was her personality, her kindness, her gentleness. Vélobirer and he didn't check what she had, maybe she's an idolater there.

There were only idolaters. Who was there I don't bring an idolater to someone who has just passed by, knowing that this girl will have to join whose house? Avraham's house, Sarah's house, when she came back and Rifka, the light, the perpetual candle started shining again, the blessing in the bread. Ah, huge things.

Hello? What's wrong? Is she religious or not religious? We don't know.

Ahzer, what are you doing? You're not asking yourself if she's religious, she's not religious. You're asking yourself a question that she has goodness. That's why that's what matters?

He says one thing to every human being: Rav, listen to me well. He says the laununa if she had launa or not laununa. He says no human being exists without faith. That's an idea, it's a revolutionary idea.

There is no Ah but you know Mr. Rabbi, I have lost my faith. Oh, you haven't lost your faith, Olivier . Faith, there is no human being who doesn't have faith.

Listen to the words he says, it's scary There is no human being who doesn't know , he knows, he knows, and that one day his soul will leave. He knows that he came into this world. He knows that he has an eshamah. There is no human being who doesn't know.

There is no human being who doesn't seek faith in his life. There is no human being who doesn't have faith. We have faith. Even those who have, even those who claim, even those who claim that they don't have faith in God, they have faith in something.

Or or not? No. And Richard, is there a human being who tells you, "I have faith in nothing? I exist.

Faith doesn't exist in me. There is no faith." That was someone who told me, he told me , I was on a plane, and he said, "You know, Mr. Ramain, do not even argue. I have no faith.

God does not exist. I cannot believe in something that I do not see, that I do not know." I replied , "You are right." Ah, you are right. I said, "You know, the plane is about to take off." Ah, he said to me, "Careful, be careful with what you are about to say because I am afraid." Ah, he said to me, "Be careful what you're going to say because I'm scared. " You said, "The plane is going to take off." I don't know if there are pilots.

Are the pilots normal, or are they crazy ? We don't know. "Well, we saw it with the Dubai flight. And yet, we're going to eat our meal, we're going to fall asleep, we're going to watch a movie and say to ourselves," What the hell is this?

"So, you've never seen the pilot, you don't know him. Do you know him? He doesn't know him. If he releases the pilot now, say it comes out and he asks to borrow 100,000 euros, do you lend it to him?

No, why don't you lend? You don't know him? You don't know him, we don't know, we don't know anything, but we have to have faith in these pilots. We have to.

Well , what do you want us to do? We're going to panic, we're going to die. He's not someone who doesn't have faith What's the problem? He's Vinstein, the only thing that's going to take away your faith is the pride of a human being who says to himself," It's me, it's me, I exist, it's me, it's my life, it's me .

" Valchera, I repeat pride, pride will kill a person who wakes up in the morning and says to themselves," It's me who's not successful, it's me who...Oh, I'm a me, I'm not God, he's me, I'm in free fall, it's me. I blame myself, I don't want to talk to anyone anymore. I'm depressed, it's me. It's me, I can't get married.

It's me, I can't see children. It's me, I can't see health. It's me, it's pride. Who are you?

Who are you? Do you even exist? We exist, I don't know. For me, we are ephemeral.

What do we exist for? Billions of people existed before us, do you know them? Do you even know their faces? No, it's ephemeral.

And when there's lava, there's humility , that's when you start to take truly the reality of your life, the reality of the force that is around you, which is called God, the reality of your destiny And there, Rinstein says when he saw a young girl with a human quality as great as humility. Where did we see that from? Where did we see that from? She saw She sees Ezer, a force of nature who says to her, "Miss, I would like to drink in her place.

What do I do?" Oliver, I say, "You want to drink, take the jug, go and drain some water." A force of nature, she serves him a drink. Elizer arrives with camels and slaves, more than 10 slaves. She continues and says, "I will give your camels a drink too." Can't you tell your slaves to give them a drink? No.

Richard, if someone is disabled, what do I do? Or if it's an old man, what do I do? I give it to her. But if it's someone who is, you know what that means to go and draw water?

And then, he would say when he saw this humility, he saw this love for others, he saw this recognition , he saw this personality, he understood that in truth, this young girl was filled with an extraordinary strength called humility. Humility, what is humility? Humility is the reality of life. She lives in a real world.

She understands the reality of the world. She knows what we are. She knows it. So what?

That's scary, Olivier. So a person who has built their personality in principle, there is no difficulty for this person to become so Maybe she has no imoua, maybe she has no But when you have this construction inside you of human consciousness, of knowing who you are, of having humility before people who are greater than you, when you see rabbis, you bow your head. When you see the people who have studied , you bow your head. When you bow down before.

When you bow your head before an old man , when you bow your head before someone who is greater than you, who is older than you, who has lived more than you, who knows more than you, shut your mouth Who do you think you are? When you listen to the advice of others , you are filled with what is called this humility. When you build yourself up inside by telling yourself that since I am a humble person, I should understand that I have faults because only the proud, as a goal of their personality, will never do any introspection of themselves. Never.

Did you hear what I was saying? Only the proud will remain in their imbalance, telling themselves that they are the best in the world and that all the rest are losers. Someone who has humility, and then when he sees a person like that, he sees a person with such humility. What humility?

Because yes, it's not even...So, you're going to tell me, "Yeah, it's not even humility, it's a lack of personality. It was done by this man. She has to give water to 10 camels. Each camel drinks at least 100 L.

They're sick. While he's sitting there with his slaves. Who does he think this man is? But he's a loser, he wants to drink.

Here, take my wine, I'm going to go get some water. Are you following me or not ? Normal stuff. She's not even into that.

She's into humility, into kindness. Humility brings kindness. Humility brings awareness to the person. He'll tell you, he'll say that she's a Vinstein.

When a person has these qualities, even if she's not religious, even if she's not religious, she has all the qualities to become the greatest nun in the world Did you hear what I just said? No, you didn't hear. You haven't heard what I just said yet? You're going to hear it because I told you about the parach, it's nice, it's free, it's good .

We talked about Rifka, but come on, let's talk about us. He said here that the work of a human being's balance is the first and most important work, the most cheamba that a human being is obliged to do. I repeat, the work of a human being's balance is the first and most important work that a human being has an obligation, an obligation one day to go inside themselves and see, well, you know what, you know what? I ask people, you are all very extraordinary.

There is no one who is mean, there is no one who is bad. When I speak like that, there is no one who is bad. But I want to tell people, go inside yourself. Go inside Inside yourself and tell yourself," Here's someone who's livable , someone normal.

" Do you know how many people I know who are crazy? I love them. They're crazy. Crazy, crazy, but totally crazy.

Totally crazy, and these fools have one problem: they're too nice. They're convinced that they're not crazy and that normal people are crazy. It's a norm, it's a concept. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

He tells you, he tells you," Talk about that. "Pride, pride, you see, he tells you," He went there, he tried something, he tried this girl, he tried something. " You know, you know, at what point will I start to understand each person? You know, at what point will I adapt to each person?

You know, at what point will I start to do something? It's from the moment I lower my pride. When a man tells you," I won't change, " he tells his wife," I will change. "No.

I won't change. It's up to you to change . I won't change." And when a woman said to her husband, " But you're the, I won't change. I'm the best in the world.

You're the poor guy!" >> But no, that man, he's extraordinary. That woman. She's very good. Avalama!

Avalama! When you read in the Torah that the only thing this man went looking for was because she's religious. We don't care if she's religious because we have plenty of crazy religious people today. Religious people, mentally ill people, we have plenty of them.

Religious people who are religious because he put on a person who doesn't mean religious. He's got a big beard. He put on blue, white, red, I don't know what. He puts on a coat, he puts on his hat.

He's religious but a sick person. And he tells you, he didn't go looking for that. He had Abraham Avinos 'list of what to look for. Humility, kindness, Ah, when you see people like that, it makes you feel...Ah, it makes you feel ...It's like mint.

It makes you feel fresh, it makes you feel fresh. You see people like that, you say, "Oh my! Eucalyptus! Calyptus, you know that eucalyptus is good for breathing and it keeps mosquitoes away.

It's weird. Oh yeah! Do mosquitoes only like people?" So he tells you, he tells you because, because why? Because balance, because balance, he says, Rabiin Narman.

Oh, balance is good. He says the balanced one will have a good life. Shalom, he will have a normal home, he will have normal children because if he is crazy, he will perpetuate the madness, that's all. He will perpetuate the madness, that's all.

When you see a child go by on a scooter at 200 km/h, it's make or break or he will die on the road, he goes through the lights, the lights, the red lights. On my word of honor, I weigh my words. There are no parents. There are no parents because I would never have done that.

Knowing that if my father knew or my mother knew, it would be a disaster for me. There are no parents. Refraim Vital, he brings back from Harrizal, his master. Bad character traits, imbalance, anger, pride.

They don't live for you; you don't care about them. What matters is you, parasite. He tells you all this in secret. It's worse than someone who makes avodes to someone who makes avodes.

You're here, you come in here in the morning, Simon, you see someone sitting here, he's opened a table and he's grilling shrimp, he's going to eat shrimp. You say, "My God, what an abomination!" The abomination of the e-e, he eats shrimp with a beautiful octopus and he eats and you say, "It's an abomination, it's a Macaw, it's horrible." Yes, yes, it's true that it's horrible, but the midotes, he said to Rizal, even worse than the Avirons, the midots. No, I won't change, no, I have nothing to change. No, I won't change.

You knew me like that. You took me like that. You knew what you took. You knew what I took ?

What did I know? Tell me, what am I? What are we? We are a psychiatric clinic , we take in people who are taken as they are.

What is this? We both, we both, we have to change. The man and the woman, we have to change. But go inside yourself.

But to go inside yourself, you have to have this humility . And I'll end by saying, oh, thank you for being here this morning, the mabas, you're here this morning. It's beautiful , it's beautiful. He brings up the following thing here.

He says when a boy goes looking for a girl. Okay, so What are we looking for, huh? First, let's look at the photo. No, first the photo.

First the photo. First the photo. Okay, come on, did you see? You like her physically, that's important.

You like her physically, Mazzov. But my darling, I...If you want, come here to Nathania. I'll show you dozens of haircuts that are physically atomic bombs. One killed the other.

They're dying or they're already dead. But beauties, beauties. And he said to me, "I married her, I liked her so much physically, I didn't know that behind her physique, there was the devil." "Yeah, but my dear friend, when you've lived your life on Instagram, what do you want me to do to you?" And that on Instagram, when you see a beautiful woman, for you, it's happiness . I can't do anything to you.

And then, he says something extraordinary. A dear Avra. Oh mom, how beautiful those words are. Ladies and gentlemen, you have children to marry.

Listen carefully to what I'm saying. Listen carefully to what I'm saying. We have suffered too much in this humanity . It's suffering for 6,000 years of suffering.

Because of that, he says when Abraham sent them to look for this woman and he says that first, first of all, Elijah Azer prayed a lot to succeed in finding a normal person. He prayed, he prayed. He prayed, he prayed. Chem, I beg you.

He says when a boy has to get married, when a girl has to get married, a lot of prayers, a lot of prayers that you come across someone normal and not a madman or a madwoman. And and after that you have a lot When you pray , you must have the imuna that the person you are going to meet is the person. You must also have launa when you meet a young girl, when you meet a boy, you must have launa. That it is God who guides you, he will bring you, don't worry.

That's the first thing. Lail Lailara says and if you prayed and you were not answered, start again. I understand why he is deaf, God is deaf . That means start again.

He didn't want to. He didn't want to. No, the friend tells you when you don't stop, it's like a son who doesn't stop bothering his father. That's how we should be with God.

Oh really? Yeah, like that. Dad! Dad!

Hello Dad! No, my son! Dad! No, it's okay!

And you pissed me off! Come on, it's okay! Come on! God forbid.

We don't piss him off. But that's what he's waiting for. He wants a bond, he wants a father-son bond. Dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad.

Don't despair, don't despair. Ask him for the second thing, so we took the first thing from zer, how much he prayed to find this Rifka. Secondly, he says the following thing, he brings the ravarou here, he says that as the rafon wrote, he told the boy what you have to look for, that the girl, then you can also turn that to the boy, same thing and good habits. At Zo Maala, at Kalou Bakol, Rafcha said that in good habits, kindness, broad-mindedness, humility, personal development, how do you behave with your parents?

Look at her, how she behaves with her parents. Look at how your boyfriend, my young ladies, behaves with his parents. It's a monstrous indicator. Monstrous.

You'll find out later, don't worry. If you Doubt my words, you'll see it later. The cavode towards everyone. No criticism of people, no cowardice, no bad eye towards people, no jealousy.

You live with someone like that, you rest. Damn, you rest. No anger. You left him on a date, you left him.

And you didn't kill him because you left him. It can happen to someone who has humility, how he lives. So people call that, no, he has no personality. You want, you want, my ladies, you want to marry bad boys?

And go ahead, you'll see, you'll see at home on a Shabbat, what will become of a bad boy, on a Shabbat when he's had a drink, and you'll see him at home. He tells you it's Rchaidi, everything is included in what we call a person's balance. Everything is included in that Why? He says because when he went to get Rifka, he went to get Rifka by giving her only one test, that of the Rède, of politeness, of the way to behave.

extraordinary. Richard when he had to approach the well , you know what happened? Normally, the water in a well is all the way down in the depths. Go get her.

The water rose so much that this young girl was pure. If I saw that, I would faint. I tell myself, that's it, the world's greatest The greatest sadist, she's a baba. She's a baba.

We'll have babas too. Dad, the water rose, sir, rap miracles. You know miracles today, miracles are fashionable, no, especially miracles are told On Facebook, on Instagram, they tell about miracles, miracles. Miracles .

We saw miracles. The water rose, is that enough for you? He says Laura Abet Azeraya, he says it wasn't enough for her to be his master's wife. No, it's not enough.

Eliezer saw the water rise. His servants must have told Ezer the water rose, a saint, a saint. He told them, "Calm down, it doesn't mean anything. It's scary.

Now, I want to stop talking . It's scary. That's not enough. So what ?

So what? Gamla, it's when he showed her kindness , her greatness of heart. She showed them her worth through actions. That's when he said he validated it.

He said it's good. He brings back the words of Vinstein, since we started with him this morning, who said:" It's true that the woman who was to marry had to continue Sarah's path, to bring light into the world, to convert again, to continue to convert human beings as Sarah had done. "Saraher did not look for an intelligent woman, full of Jewish philosophy, a great psychologist. No, not at all.

He looked for a woman who was not selfish, who wanted to build something good, who wanted to take care of a husband whose head is not filled with dreams that are destroying his life. Millions and millions of young girls have passed the age of 30 or 35, extraordinary because through social networks they have lived in dreams. My marriage is a dream. Marriage is not a dream, ladies and gentlemen.

Marriage will be just another job in life to make your life more concrete. I can't, he can't, I can't say, I can't listen to what this rabbi says. I lived in Netflix, I can't live in Turkish series, I've never heard of that Turkish series in >> Turkey, in Turkey, girls, women, they can do what they want. A Turkish series and Indian series.

And so you understand, Mr. Rabbi, that I understand that I can't and the years have passed, they haven't gotten married He finishes and says, " And even when you find an extraordinary girl with all the criteria of the recipe that we have mentioned, and you find an extraordinary boy with all the criteria of reality. One thing, even with all these criteria of reality, know one thing, you can't know, you can't yet know the reality. You will only know it when you marry her.

When you marry her, there will be work to do. And that's life. And that's all. That's life.

That's the work we have to do. That's all. That's life. Doing this work.

Doing this work. Doing this work is hard. But doing this work, you have to do it. That's it, that's all for today.