Voir les qualités de l'autre - avec le Rav Elie Lemmel

That flaw you have is a disaster, it really is a disaster. Who hasn't said or heard that one day? Especially in a relationship, it's not very fun, but let's be clear, who doesn't have flaws? Nobody, obviously.

And so, from that point, the question is: the day I discover a flaw in my partner, because we usually discover them in others first , don't we? Well, on that day, we should ask ourselves deep down, am I first capable of seeing all of the other person's qualities to dilute the flaw within those qualities? Mind you, that doesn't mean we won't talk about it, but you know, when you start diluting the flaw in the qualities the other person has, obviously, you don't look at them the same way because you see what's right first. It seems obvious, but you know, it's something you have to practice every day , and for that, an excellent piece of advice that I try to apply myself—and it's not so simple.

Every day, ask yourself how many times I managed to give a compliment about something positive. that I saw in my partner. You'll see, after a while, it's not just that they will be happy to hear them, obviously, but we also manage to build a different image of the other person. We compliment them, focusing on everything that's going well, and the day the flaw appears and we discover it , obviously, we will work on it, but it won't have an outsized impact on our daily life, and that is arguably the most important thing.

Yeah.