L'amour par l'engagement - avec le Rav Elie Lemmel

In truth, the Torah is telling you that what reveals that love exists is simply that there has been the courage of a commitment. Because speaking of love without committing is not necessarily the expression of a feeling, but sometimes the use of a word to be able to draw the other person to yourself. Vayikar, vayaver. You can only truly say that you love the other person to the extent that you are ready to commit and you do so in a concrete way.

This is what is called in philosophy placing yourself in the depth of your knowledge. What validates your conviction, what validates your word, is the capacity you have to translate it into the real world. And that is? It is commitment.

Vayikar, vayaver. That doesn't mean that in the world of marriage today, we say, but before there is no feeling. Obviously you have a feeling. If you don't have a feeling, it's a bit troublesome.

What is the? I received from one of my teachers , he said to me, how can you know that you are going to love? It's very simple . It's if the other person decides never to see you again, will it?

Are you happy to see? He says these are the beginnings of the feeling of love. And as for what the movies have told us , we put that aside. We put it aside.

We put aside these images, these descriptions, and this desire to feel something just as it was described to us A guy comes in one day and he tells me, I don't know, I'm very troubled, I don't know if I love her. So I won't give you the flu symptoms speech. So he told me something else, he said, no, but I don't know, I wake up in the morning, I don't think of her right away. I say, and?

And? But I don't know if I loved her. Is it written down? No, but everyone tells me.

Oh, great. What's funny is that everyone says it, and especially those who made the movie , most of the time in their private lives, it's a bit more complex, isn't it ? With all the respect I owe them, I like them a lot, but they aren't necessarily systematically the references. Johnny's "I love you." Yeah, but the brunette, the blonde, the green, the orange, right?

I love in you what I will be able to take. Oh yes. But I am capable of saying I love you. In truth, it's not love, it's like.

Since you like fish, right. You eat it.