Apprendre à dire non pour offrir un vrai oui #shorts

And when you know how to say no, when you're capable of saying no, then the yes is a real >> Yes. ! >> There are kids like that, children, they are very nice. And you know, there are some like that, you ask them for a favor, they'll always say yes.

And they are children, and you have to teach them to say no. Look, if it bothers you, I'd rather you tell me. Because we don't want people forcing themselves to be helpful. We want to be happy being givers.

You know that even in marketing or negotiation, it's wild. I read a book on negotiation this summer, don't ask me why. Uh, which is called Never Split the Difference. Okay, yeah, in English too, I know, it sounds classy.

And in Never Split the Difference, he explains something insane. Well, it's a bit manipulative, I agree, but it's crazy. He tells you if you want to get a yes, get three no's first. Example.

Hello, could I get an appointment with Trump? Well, no. In an hour? In a day?

Well, let me check his schedule. Yeah, it's a bit of a setup. It's just crazy. So, I'm going to tell you a secret.

If you want me to come give a class at your place, that's how I operate. It's usually one no, two no's, three no's, then I tell my husband, "No, it's not right, I said no three times, now we have to..." There you go. So, so yes, when, when, when Rifka, she's someone with a lot of strength of character. I know it because she was capable, in the Parsha of Chayei Sarah, of opposing her father.

I know it because she was capable of refusing things. And so, the reality is that Rifka's yes comes from genuine will. And I'm going to give you some advice. You know, sometimes we're at the table like this, and we're standing up, and someone says, "Bring me the pitcher, can you pour me some?" "We're like, I just wanted to get up for 2 seconds." So the answer is either, "Well no, you get up." "Or if I say yes, then do it, you'll see it changes your life." If I say yes, I fill the glass with water, I take the chicken leg, and when I do that, at that moment, what do I say ?

I say Ani oved leschem ressed. I do this to give pleasure. And I'll tell you, the experience is not the same at all. Am I really doing it to give?

And it truly fulfills me.